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Life is Too Short to Attach Yourself to Anyone’s Boxers

Women like me are tagged “radical”, “fiery”, “tough” etc but I since realized a long time ago that my happiness stares me in the face.

I’m solely responsible for my own happiness.

Marriage doesn’t validate or quantify one’s success.

I’m not a manager of happiness. It’s ALL or NOTHING with me.

Prayers are good but only when both souls agree to it.

I won’t whittle out for anyone who doesn’t prioritize me.

I’m Afolake. I’m different. I’m not scared of societal labeling. I validate my own truth.

As I’ve prepared myself as a treasure as a wife then he who marries me, must be lucky to get me.

No half measures. No second guessing.

Life is too short to attach your happiness to another’s boxers, moods or emotions.

I will continue to challenge the unfounded traditional myths that equates marriage with suffering. NO. The status quo must change and give way.

There’s no special place in heaven for best Miss or Mrs.

Till we rid ourselves of the congenital and societal backed belief that marriage is the solution to life’s problems, certain women shall continue to live in grief, violent, grey and toxic marriages.

No woman’s worth should be validated by marriage much less an erring husband returning home as a prized possession.

This is my creed. _ Folake Oyetesho

“I Was The Biggest Failure I Knew”- JK Rowling

Harry Portter Author, Jk Rowling had this to say about her journey to being a billionaire

“My name is JK Rowling… as soon as I knew who writers were, I wanted to be one. I’ve got the perfect temperament for a writer; perfectly happy, in a room making things up

The most traumatizing moment in my life was the day my mother died…and it shaped my whole life. I was writing Harry Potter the moment she died, so it’s not surprising that my books are largely about death. I know why Voldemort wants to conquer it. We’re all frightened of death…

After she died, I moved to Portugal to try to cope with the grief. Took up a job teaching, fell in and …out of love. I had a miscarriage, got married and gave birth to my daughter, Jessica. But my marriage lasted a mere 13 months and then I was a lone parent, jobless, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain without being homeless

I had just three chapters of Harry Potter when I moved back to Britain…By every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

It took me seven years to complete the first Harry Potter book- ‘Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s stone’ and it was rejected twelve times by top publishing houses in Britain and I was told it would never sell…especially if kids knew a woman had written it. I had to initialize my name to give the book a fighting chance

Today, all seven Harry Portter books have sold over 450 million copies, been made into movies and keeps earning far more than I ever dreamt”.

Jk Rowling is estimated to be worth a little less than A Billion Dollars. She has made £526.54 per word written in the Harry Potter books

6 Things You Should Stop Expecting from Others

I am Strong; But I am Tired

I am strong…But, I am Tired

I am tired of wiping my own tears

I am tired of being responsible for everyone. I want someone to tell me “relax, I got you”

I am tired of changing my own bulbs

I am tired of being there for everyone while I get half the effort in return

I am tired




The other day, I got back home from vacation and everything was as I left it. Plus, the gas had finished and my help was waiting for me to get back before she could refill. I got in my car to go find gas at 9pm. On my way, it just felt a little too much so I cried to God. “Lord I’m tired of doing everything myself…I need support”

And I heard a voice in my head “I have not made you a weakling. This is one of my gifts to you, your strong-will”. I was at the traffic light at this time so I pressed down my horn in frustration…”commonnnnnn. I don’t want to be strong all the time” I screamed at God “I am tired now. I want to rely on someone…sometimes”

Silence…

Sigh…

I bought the gas, got home, had dinner and showered

I AM TIRED. BUT, I AM STRONG. So, I’ll sleep, get my strength back and tomorrow, I’ll wake up with a tremendous will to fight. I will stay the path, keep my head high and keep going