Maybe he was an abuser, maybe he just handled hurt the wrong way, I will never know for sure

I was in a very toxic abusive relationship, extremely toxic. I really do not want to address my abuser as a he hence I will just say “the past.” The past was the best and probably one of t...

I was nine months pregnant when my baby lost his heartbeat

I’ll never forget the moment the doctor offered her condolences. ‘I’m sorry, your baby has died’, she said. Those words felt like needles to me. I was 31 years old and 38 weeks...

When you have to deal with emotional abuse

The first step in dealing with an emotionally abusive relationship is to recognise that it is happening. If you were able to identify any aspect of emotional abuse in your relationship, it is importan...

Is living apart the solution to crisis in a marriage?

At the end of 2013, my wife and I had reached a breaking point. Divorce appeared inevitable. Then, out of desperation, the idea of living apart together was raised. For nearly two years we managed ...

Stop lying to your doctors hoping for a miracle. You are at risk of being misdiagnosed. Please help your doctor to help you. #DANGDoctor Monisola Adanijo

One topic that really bothers me as a physician is how patients are not completely honest with their doctors. A young lady was brought to the emergency room with a few days history of difficulty in br...

When You Feel Like You’re Going Nowhere and Life Has No Point

How many days do you wake up feeling like you’re a hamster on a wheel? You brush your teeth, take a shower, drink your coffee, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch television, go to bed, and rin...

Stop Comparing Your Life To Beautifully-Filtered Instagram Photos

Hey, we all do it. It’s the reason that social media “depression” has become a thing, and why some people take hiatus from social media or have stopped using it altogether. You see, we’ve all ...

#TBT To That Time Odemwinge Declared His Love For me…How did I Respond?

It was 200L first semester when Odemwinge (My ex in Uni, not the popular footballer) first told me he loved me. I thought I didn’t hear him correctly so I continued with the noodles I was preparing ...

I am proof that being a good girl does not guarantee you being loved

I’m not much of a writer but somehow I felt that if I just write my story and the post you shared about being a good girl doesn’t guarantee you being loved kind of spurred me . I might fee...

Why I left my Lazy Cheating Husband And Started All Over Again

The story of the cheating husband and the one about the lady who read her fiance’s chat with his friend inspired me to write this. Hmmmm! Let me tell my story. I am recently separated and filin...

The Fear Of My Daughter Being Molested Has Made Me Paranoid Of Every Male Around

I am a mum of 4 kids. 2 girls and 2 boys. I have plenty relatives living in my house at any particular time. Everyday we read about perverts defiling young girls and even fathers molesting their daugh...

What Really Is Feminism? Lessons I Learnt From’The Movie, “Hidden Figures”

In light of the movie I just saw, “Hidden Figures.”, I’d like to share my thoughts on feminism and what it truly means. I don’t know if you’ve seen it but I recently did,...

Knowing It Is Time To Let Go Of Your Marriage

I was 11 years old when I was invited to an elderly neighbour’s house for tea. My mother dressed me in the nicest outfit I had for the occasion and made sure I knew enough etiquette to get throu...

How much is your salary? – Building wealth as an employee

Not everyone can be an entrepreneur but you can build steady and gradual wealth with discipline and precise decisions. See below my experience while I was in paid employment: 1. Invest: I invested my ...

I Wish My Boyfriend Understands Forgiveness But Unfortunately, He Doesn’t

So I had left a toxic relationship abruptly, (you know that sort of relationship where you have been meaning to move from but it’s hard, because love …But you wake up one day and you leave, yo...

A tribute to My Dad And Others Like Him Who Taught Us Confidence

  My first brush with gender role crises was very early. My father was a nurse you see, and as a 3 or 4 year old philosopher, I hypothesised that doctors are the male version of nurses, kind of l...

There Is No Harm In Being Polite To Officials Doing Their Jobs

 I love to be a “good Nigerian” obeying traffic rules, not driving without a valid license and obeying police instructions, just because I don’t want to give any law enforcement official any re...

3 Tips for Anyone Who’s Tired of Trying to Make New Habits Stick

Have you given up smoking, only to start again three months later? Think of it this way: for three months, your body was healthier and you’ve probably earned back few minutes of your life. Would it...

How Leaving Social Media Helped Me Become A Better Person

Twitter didn’t give me the flu or bronchitis, but it made me sick. Unhealthy. Ill-feeling. And it could have been any social media platform that did it, I just happened to have chosen Twitter. For y...