What kind of mother says these words to her child? How can I keep forgiving such a person?

My mum dropped me with my paternal grandparents when I was about 1 year old because my dad wouldn’t marry her after getting her pregnant and the man that was willing to marry her gave her the condit...

How Writing Helped Me Overcome Stress and Become Happier

Two years ago, I had a nervous breakdown. Let me tell you how that happened. I had just moved to New York. I’ve always been dreaming about making that big step. You know those people from small town...

Life is too short to be too busy

“Slow down. Calm down. Don’t worry. Don’t hurry. Trust the process.” ~Alexandra Stoddard  Heard in the offices across America… “I’m so busy and have no time!” “How is it almost 2019...

What is your biggest fear?

…a reader asked me. Instead of writing a quick response, I took the time to reflect, not without some fear. First I dumped. I wrote down a list of my fears. 1- To suffer from terminal illness 2- To ...

How I Stopped Feeling Guilty About Doing What’s Best for Me

I remember one night, after an exhausting day at work, I joyfully looked forward to a relaxing evening. As I drove home, all I could think of was taking a hot bath, brewing a fragrant herbal tea, and ...

To me, my mother defines resilience. She had such strong faith and was a very giving person.

When I was a young girl and something difficult happened, I would look to my mother for comfort and guidance. She was always there for me, helping me work through the issue or helping me gain perspec...

Are you struggling with procrastination? Here is what to do

Do you always delay the tasks you have to do until the last minute? If your answers were yes then you are a definitely a procrastinator. Procrastination won’t only make you feel guilty, lower your ...

How Doing Less Can Help You Have More of What Matters

I appreciate the innate power of narrowing our focus because for a large chunk of my life, I lived another way. I worked long days. I kept a to-do list that got longer and longer. I covered the worklo...

5 Problems that Are Unique to High Achievers

High achievement doesn’t make people immune to depression, marital problems, parenting issues, stress or any of the other reasons people pursue psychotherapy. But, in addition to those commo...

You Should Always Take Care Of Yourself First — A Lesson I Learned The Hard Way

In March 2012, when I was 21, I collapsed at home. I had a lingering cold for a few weeks but thought nothing of it, continued working, going out and travelling. The cold turned out to be a virus that...

How badly does it affect a son when his father abandons him?

Men speak openly with each other about their relationship with their fathers, good or bad and how it affected them. Men who had a missing, toxic or inadequate relationship openly express grief about t...

It took me this long to realise he was only using me. He did not love me.

I want to share my story because I am trying to heal a day at a time. Sometime I laugh at my stupidity and the dumb decisions I made and it is very disgusting to me myself not to talk about others so ...

After 4 Years, My Hustle Has Finally Paid Off

I will say my life is a product of my dreams and somehow God has helped me bring it into fruition. I am the first child from the family of four , my mum was a primary school teacher but she’s retire...

Diamond in The Rough: The Inspiring Story of A Paper Recycler

Diamond in The Rough: The Inspiring Story of A Paper Recycler “My name is Babatunde Peter. I am a graduate of Osun state polytechnic. I worked with skye bank for 2 years as a contract staff befo...

Don’t Let Promotion Anxiety Derail Your Career

Many of us dream about the moment when we get that longed-for promotion. Imagine that it’s yours: a great step up the career ladder, huge responsibility, a bigger team and a whopping pay rise. It al...

A moment that changed me – the death of my sister and the grief that followed

In August, my younger sister Lucy died. She was only 32 years old and the light of our lives. We knew it was coming, not quite as quickly as it did, but she had advanced cancer, so her days were numb...

Being Short Has Many Advantages. Stop The Insecurities

I’ve spent years dealing with people pointing out my height, leaning on my shoulders, telling me how “cute” I am, and suggesting I am actually up to ten years younger than I really am. I’ve be...

I Discovered My Father Was A Prostitute After He Died

My dad’s name is Jack. John, really, but the nickname “Jack” stuck with him throughout his life. As a transgendered woman, he then became Jackie. Let’s just say that my brother and sisters rea...

Getting my dream job after years of unemployment changed my mindset completely

10 years ago today, I lost my job. I was a statistic amongst many in 2008. I remember driving home from my meeting and crying my eyes out. I called my Dad and shared the news. I had no idea how I was ...