I am 28 years old and have been separated from my husband for almost a year now. Between, we were married for 3 years.
I realised there was absolutely nothing my husband was offering in the marriage and I’m not even talking about monetary now. This was a man who couldn’t fix the easiest technical issue in the house. Yes, I fix the bulb when they go bad, if there’s an issue with electrical cords or electrical appliances, I fix them too. Not forgetting that I put on the generator too even when he’s home. Please what thirty-something year old man cannot put on the generator?
Coupled with the fact that I do all the house chores including cooking 3 times or more daily and washing his clothes. And then, this type of man would still cheat on me with reckless abandon. I had to treat infection a couple of times.
I practically forgot I had my own life to live. For 3 years I was living for him, taking care of him, mending him, tolerating him and loosing myself in the process. My dream and aspirations were on hold because he felt threatened. I couldn’t work because according to him if I’m out there I’ll see men who would probably snatch me from him,. He also discouraged me from continuing with my business that I was doing before marrying him all because of his insecurities. I decided it was over because I couldn’t cope any longer as my health was beginning to get affected. Having High blood pressure at 28?
And yes I didn’t know he was that kind of person because we had a supposed Christian dating where we didn’t even get to spend quality time together. We met most times in church and some religious outings until the wedding. I trusted him because I thought he was a church boy but I was wrong.
Anyway, after I moved out, I was able to get a job and I am also doing my business by the side. A lot of good things are happening to me and yes, this is the life i deserve. I do not have any regrets whatsoever. And No, I’m never going back there.
Written by anonymous for Diaryofanaijagirl.ng