I have known this man and we have been friends for years. I can be myself around him and he’s completely in love with all of me (mind included), I know this over time because I have done everything to push him away (right from when he lived abroad) till now that we are in the same state in Naija.
I know he is a good man and means well for me, I knew about his past relationship, we stopped talking for almost a year because he felt he needed space to fix them, I didn’t mind coz I wasn’t after him, then she left him and he came running back.
We’ve been through some tough times together, I refused to do the long distance relationship thing, now he’s here, living and working close by. We’re both doing great in our careers, he loves me, I feel something very strong for him (I’m afraid to give it a name), but I fight it day and night. We all want beautiful babies and I don’t know if my genes will be strong enough to over come his. I’m also afraid of what my family and friends will say (they’re many ?).
I only took my bestie out with him and she whispered “Hell no” to me. What do I do? Our interests are aligned, he adores me, we have the same values, we are almost magic together, but his looks. Another thing is that, he has also been in jail (not in Nigeria though), he was held liable for a fraud his subordinate committed in his family company, (he claimed responsibility and went to jail instead of his aged father). Deep down, I am not okay with all this. I know looks is not everything, but I’m also scared of the impact the time he served may have on us. What if my friends and family find out? I have told no one. Should I forget people and be with him? How do I get over/see beyond his looks? I’m confused.
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