For Years, My Husband Continually Drugged And Raped Me

1 September 25, 2018 By Dang


Seven years into our marriage, I started having memory and fatigue issues. Strange things would happen to me and I couldn’t remember how. One night, I woke up with a dissolving pill in my mouth. I had no recollection of taking a pill and was very confused. Another night I woke up with my clothes off. That was strange, since I wear clothes when I sleep and could not remember taking them off.

I was also experiencing a weird taste when I slept. It was very bitter, like that lingering awfulness in your mouth when you don’t get an aspirin down in the first swallow. After a while, I started tasting the same thing in my drinks. I thought there was something seriously wrong with me.

One night, I woke up to my husband standing over me with something strange in one hand and a flashlight, shining in my face, with the other. As he scurried away he tried to hide something under the mattress. After a physical confrontation, I was able to retrieve what was hidden. Under the mattress was a vial with a cloudy liquid inside.

I asked what it was and what was he doing with it. He admitted that he had been dissolving Xanax and/or Ambien and administering it to me while I slept. Of course I asked why and he told me he thought I needed the drugs so I could get more sleep. Confused, I begged him to stop. He agreed to stop and I trusted that he would.

Over the next few years, I caught him multiple times administering the same white cloudy liquid to me. I confronted him over and over again, pleading for him to stop. He always had a way to make me believe that he would stop, that he was just looking out for my best interest.

One day, my husband left his phone at home. I had had suspicions that maybe he was involved in something shady so I decided to investigate. I found a video taken by my husband of him having sex with me while I was passed out cold. There were three videos in total and in each one I looked like I was dead.

How did I not know this was happening to me? How did I not wake up when this was going on? I couldn’t wake up! I had been drugged with the white cloudy liquid that my husband administered to me countless times before. I was so disgusted, confused and afraid.

I kept a copy of the videos and confronted my husband. He acted like he had done nothing wrong and then he somehow manipulated me into believing that no one would believe me, even with the video. Very soon, we were divorced. He moved out and away from me. Even though I could move on with my life, I always felt like I should do something.

One day, my son and daughter were supposed to go with their father for their weekend visit. My son would be gone most of the visit on a school trip and my daughter would have been left by herself with her father.

All of a sudden, I felt like my brain opened up and I finally realised that If he could do something that horrific and horrible to his own wife, then he could do it to anyone, including my daughter. It was then I knew that I needed to turn him in to the police for what he had done.

I turned the copy of the video I had over to the police and told them my story. For the next three years, I fought this man who I once trusted with my life. I had to fight him in the criminal court and also in civil court over my children.

Finally last year, the jury trial came to an end: my husband was convicted of six Class B felonies, including rape and criminal deviant conduct but I was shocked when I was told he would be put under house arrest, essentially free and able to live on without going to prison.

And the judge told me that my ex may have been a crappy husband, but he was a good father and that I should “forgive him.”

Excuse me, sir. This man raped me multiple times over many years. Rape doesn’t make him a crappy husband — it makes him a criminal.

Two months later, my ex violated his house arrest. He was finally sent to prison, this time with a five-year sentence — and was let out a few months ago.


Today, I am still trying to overcome the depression that comes with the shame and disgust that I feel when those videos pop into my head. I need to make sure that this story is heard by other women in similar situations. Maybe they will find the courage like I did to come forward, and to make sure their attacker is held accountable for their actions.



One comment on “For Years, My Husband Continually Drugged And Raped Me

  1. Anonymous

    wow, quite similar happened to me too.One night I wasn’t asleep enough and woke up during the foreplay of the act and questioned him and he admittedly said “when you’re asleep, u can’t say no” and I actually thought I was dreaming when those words where uttered and I only found out because I got suspicious of how “”well” I had been sleeping to the point that I didn’t even wake up once to urinate at night. Without his knowledge, I had switched my favorite juice that he always offered me at meal time with another. Let’s say my trust became an issue for many many months after but efforts to bring him to justice went futile and I stopped fighting for peace to just move on. And I’ve learned this type of act is a sort of fetish or sexual desire where one desires to be with a lifeless but living body. Or non living body too. Necrophilia it’s called I think. Crazy I know. ?



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