Why do some Nigerian Men Treat Women The Way They Do?

0 September 20, 2018 By Dang

I never say this because I’ve met many gentlemen in Nigeria. Well brought up and without negative bias towards women but this morning, what happened to me makes me wonder why Naija men do some of the things they do.

On my way to work this morning, I saw my neighbour’s car parked on the road side, right behind her car was a land rover truck and surrounding her were three men all talking at the same time at her. I pulled to the side and alighted from my car. When I got to their circle, I asked.

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Chi (neighbour) “are you okay? What’s going on?” She looked distressed. She told me she hit the Land Rover from behind and badly dented the bumper. I said “Okay, so what are we going to do? What’s the plan?” “I’ve told them I’ll repair it. But they want me to follow them to their panel beater now now now. I’ll be late for my appointment with my doctor. I’ve explained that I’m doing IVF and I can’t be late for my appointment. I gave them my card and house address but they’re insisting it has to be now” Her voice was shaking, her eyes had pooled with tears.

I turned to the men and focused on the one holding the car key. “We’re so sorry sir. Please I can also take you to my office and you can come for me if she doesn’t show up at yours in the evening. Please let her make her doctor’s appointment. Let me give you my card as well…”

“You must think we’re fools. Ehn. She must follow us now to repair this car. I don’t know you and I don’t want to know you. Get out of my face please,” he steps aside to look at Chi “Don’t make me rough handle you o. Get in your car, my brother will follow you…” The man

Holding the key had raised his voice. I asked Chi if she had called her husband, she said “He’s almost here. Abeg stay with me”. In another 5 minutes, her husband arrived. Shook hands with the men, they spoke for 5 minutes, he gave them his card and I could her one of them say, “Why didn’t you come before she went to call another woman to defend her. That one was now talking to me with authority. Woman come here dey tell me what to do. From where na? I was angry ehn…” My heart sunk. This is crazy! I wondered how the man himself didn’t sound crazy.



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