Dear men, how are you able to disregard soiling your legacy for a few minutes of non-consensual sex and/or sexual assault?

0 July 26, 2018 By Dang

 

Your #endrape series has touched me and I want to share my story. This happened recently.

An old friend had been haranguing me for abandoning the friendship. We were acquainted at my place of work 10 years ago. After trying to pursue and I maintained ‘NO’, he said he’d settle as friends. Okay. We became phone buddies only bumping into each occasionally at airports or events.
This year, he started haranguing me again saying as a friend and professional in a field related to the cause his NGO is promoting, we should collaborate. That didn’t sound out of place to me. I postponed the visit for 5 months until recently on a weekend, I thought I might as well. He said he wasn’t in the office that day but at home and I should still visit so I proceeded.

Being happy for another woman’s major moves doesn’t take away from your own accomplishments.

He was very courteous and respectful starting out. We chatted about his NGO and I exclaimed how proud I was of him for sounding so professional; talked about our families; the gospel (he’s a clergyman) and politics (he’s trying to contest for a political office in 2019). I snuck a look at the time and made to leave and he said I should come to his seat as he wanted to say something to me.

As he had been well-behaved up to that point, I did. He started telling me how he found my stubbornness most fascinating and how it had been killing him to sacrifice his all for his family and so now he wanted to ‘live’ a little. I told him that was good and fine but really none of my concern and I had to go.

He held me back with one hand and WHIPPED OUT HIS PENIS with the other and began rubbing furiously. I wanted to throw up. “What do you think you’re doing?????” Uncle replied that since nothing he could say or do would get me into his bed , he might as well deal with the fantasy he’s had about me by jerking off while I watched. Ugh DANG, just…ugh!!!! Talk about from 0 to 100 real quick. How did we get here??

By this time, we were up and jostling for the door and he blocked my path. I tried again- “You do realise your standing in the society and the church, don’t you?”
He replied, “my humanity comes first”.

Obara Jesus! I realised then it was a bad case. All this time the rubbing was continuing and he was asking for “a little time, I’m so close”. Tueh! I had to think fast. I didn’t want to do anything that could create a scene (my driver and his security personnel were outside) or something that would incite him to violence (principle of the cornered animal et al) so I modulated my voice and spoke soothingly-

“Why are you so selfish?” He looked at me questioningly. I said, “Yes. Here you are taking care of only yourself. What about me? Don’t you think I’d like to enjoy too?” Hands left penis, eyes lit up with excitement. “Really??” he asked. “Why not? Am I not human too? Let me go and make a decent arrangement(exact words used) so that we can get it on properly.” I could see the hallelujah dancing in his eyes at this. He literally rushed to open the door and told me he’d be waiting for my call. That was how I left with his penis still nodding its head at me.

Nne, the buffoon had the nerve to text me later and say he was checking on me.

Dear men, how are you able to disregard thoughts of the possible consequences- tainting of your reputation, soiling of your legacy, ridiculing of your family – for a few minutes of non-consensual sex and/or sexual assault /harassment. Is it really worth it?
How. Do. You. Do. It?????

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