The ride on the comparison bus is all-consuming and exhausting. It is the true enemy of peace and contentment. One we usually find ourselves hopping on before we blink our eyelids twice. The tendency to compare ourselves to others is as human as any other emotion.
However, we must make the conscious effort to get off this bus. I was once on the comparison bus and it hurt my self-esteem badly, I never felt good enough and I used to walk around with my head bowed. A few years ago I found these practical guides that helped me get off the comparison bus.
- Become intimately aware of who you are:
As cliché as it may sound, out of the 7.3 billion people in the world, there is no one else like you. You’re unique and special; you should look into the mirror every morning and tell yourself that. Write down all your dreams and goals, also, write down all that you’ve accomplished in the past. Let them serve as the motivation you need to achieve your dreams and goals.
- Keep a gratitude journal:
Write down everything you’re grateful for. It forces you to recognize the things you have and the things you take for granted, such as good health. It also takes your eyes off the person next to you reducing the chances of you comparing yourself to he/her.
- Remind yourself that nobody is perfect:
Don’t be too hard on yourself. Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome. And everybody is suffering through their own, whether you are close enough to know it or not.
- Find inspiration in place of comparison
Instead of doing a chronic comparison between yourself and other people, let their lives inspire you. Humbly ask questions of the people you admire or read biographies as inspiration.
Remember the grass is greener where you water it and not on the other side. The people you compare yourself with don’t always have it easier.