I hustle hard. As cliché (and almost corny) as it sounds, I thrive off of working hard and coming up with new ideas to put into action. Every day I’m working to get my money up, hoping to one day reach a level of financial wealth, and I work even harder to make sure my life is in line with my purpose. I hustle hard. Point. Blank. Period. That is until I find myself in a relationship.
Don’t get me wrong, when I have a man I still work hard, but it’s just not as hard as I do when I’m single. Now that I’m in a transitional phase of my life (advancing to the next level in my career, deciding on a new home, and launching a business), I can’t help but wonder if a relationship will stand in the way of my hustle.
In the past I would give a side-eye to women who proclaimed they were not in a relationship because they were focusing on their career. I couldn’t fathom the thought of a woman choosing to surpass love to solely focus on work. Now, I get it. Not only do I get it, but I think I’m becoming one of those women.Read:Living Together Before Marriage: Would You Do it?
The question of love vs. career intertwine in the heavily-discussed debate that most of us independent women find ourselves in the middle of: “Can women have it all?” Well, I think Oprah answered the question best. Yes, women can have it all–just not all at once.
I think it’s possible to have love and a budding career, but I think it gets a lot more complicated to have love and a serious hustle. It’s certainly not impossible and a woman can do whatever it is she sets her mind, heart, and spirit to, but for a woman who has a goal and a deadline when it comes to her career, a relationship could be a hindrance.
This all depends on where she is in the stage of her career (Oprah has assistance and assistants). If she has to grind it out seven days a week and nearly 24 hours a day, where is the time for romance? Sure, she can carve out an occasional day to relax, unwind, hang with the girls, or even go on a date, but is this enough time to devote to a serious relationship?
Relationships can be a positive addition to your life and at times can even serve as a motivator, but when the hustle is real… you know, you have to eat, sleep, and breath it. I’m starting to think that relationships could possibly get in the way.
A relationship requires time and work, and lots of it. Right now, during this transitional phase, I barely have enough time for myself. Adding someone to the equation would mean neglecting some of my daily goals and commitments. Or maybe it’s just a matter of prioritizing and managing time. Nonetheless, I can’t help but wonder if I should just hold off on a romantic commitment until I have more time for more than just my goals.
Just like Oprah, I do believe that women can have it all. But I’m also unsure if it can all be ‘had’ at one time. I want to be in love, but I also can’t neglect my hustle; and a time-consuming relationship at this time could get my priorities all messed up.
Ladies, do you think relationships are ambition killers?
Written by Erica R. Williams