Cabo Travel Diary Day 3: I Finally Met The EX-Boyfriend For The First Time Since We Broke up

15 October 08, 2017 By Dang

After the last Cabo travel Diary post about the Exboyfriend being here with me in Cabo but I hadn’t seen him, Click here to Read I began to think about how it would feel to meet him again after a long time. Would he apologise? Will things be awkward? Will I feel something?

The group I’m with in Cabo decided to go for the ATV tour so we were all waiting at the reception for everyone to gather so we could all get on the bus together. I was on the phone when he came through from a corner. I saw him, then saw his friend whose persona I liked very much. I immediately forgot about the ex and jumped at the friend. I was genuinely glad to see him.

I noticed as I ran to meet his friend, he thought I was running towards him so his arms were spread to catch me with a wide smile. But, of course that didn’t happen. I jumped into his friend’s arms and had banters with him. Then, I gave the EX a quick hug and went back to catching up with his friend.

We got in the bus and I finally made some time out to think about it. How did I feel when I saw him?

Nothing!

I was shocked at myself. I tried to tell myself not to internalise my emotions, to feel what I was feeling and be honest with myself. It was like looking for a needle -that wasn’t lost- in a haystack.




I finally came to the realisation that I was over this person. It felt really good to know that I had no animosity towards him, that I had no feelings for him anymore either. I was OKAY.

Coming to this conclusion, I decided to cut him some slack. We’re in Cabo to have fun, I won’t make it awkward for him or myself so I loosened up, made jokes with him, had breakfast with him amongst a group and realized we could actually be friends. We were also supposed to talk about what happened between us but I later decided it wasn’t necessary. The past is the past, at the end of the day, closure is overrated.

Unfortunately, we have to be friends from afar because as expected, he tried to make a pass at me. This is typical of Exes who don’t find you broken or pining over them. Their ego is at stake and they want to get back in there to do more damage so they can feel good about themselves. After I told him that ‘it’ wasn’t going to happen and he didn’t believe me, I decided to avoid him. Really, we’re on holiday, I’m not going to spend my time fending off a predator.




On one of those occasions when we went to town, I looked at him and thought to myself “How could my heart have broken from the inside for this person…?”. He is not a bad person, it’s just I saw some traits I should have taken seriously.

I also knew I would have dated him. At the time, I was powerless, I saw in every man that I liked a potential husband instead of looking critically at their actions instead of their words. I would have dated him because I genuinely felt something that was unexplainable. Most importantly, dating him made me see myself in the mirror and sent me to a therapist to speak genuinely about my issues and finally begin to resolve them.

Dating him wasn’t a waste after all but getting back with him when he made a pass would have been a very huge mistake that I’d regret for the rest of my life.

Oh, FYI, he never apologised.

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15 comments on “Cabo Travel Diary Day 3: I Finally Met The EX-Boyfriend For The First Time Since We Broke up

  1. Zee

    The making a pass part is just really annoying. I mean, dude, we happened and life happened. Get over yourself. Lol. At least there is a special person now. End of story.




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  2. Anonymous

    Dang see how you slipped in low key that you have a boo, Wedone ma. He will see you the way God sees you amen. Thank God for self development. Enjoy the trip wella.




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  3. Verse

    Seems both of were over with each other a long time ago.

    I was actually hoping for some makeup shenanigans
    Disappointed




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  4. Olive

    I’m glad you’re over him for good. Breakups can often times make you question yourself and your worth. No one should have that much power over anyone




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  5. Me

    Ha! C ow u just slipped d bf gist inn lik dat… just one line… biko spill?
    Meanwhile , d God dat gave DANG bf, do my own dis mnth




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  6. Me

    Ha! C ow u just slipped d bf gist inn lik dat… just one line… biko spill?
    Meanwhile , d God dat gave DANG bf, do my own dis mnth




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  7. T-Honey

    Oh wow… Big of you gal… Big of you to actually try to cut him some slack… Me… Outcome may have been similar… But the process… Nah.

    Btw… Congratulations hun… it will go the long haul by his grace. Xoxo




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  8. Misty

    Glad you moved on!
    I guess we all go through that phase In life when we find ourselves with the wrong people but marriage is the only thing popping in our head so we don’t get to see the green light. I won’t even say hello to my ex, Yes I’m that childish ???




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  9. Eyi

    DANG! You are amazing… glad you moved on.
    I’m kinda in the same situation with my ex… hopefully, I will pull through.




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  10. Oma

    I have met boys like this ( emphasis on boys). I’m glad you were able to break out of the toxic relationship. Not many people are able to
    P.S I’m a huuuugggeee fan BTW




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