Diary of A Celebrity Wife: Being A Celebrity Wife is Not The Same As Marrying A Regular Guy

31 September 27, 2017 By Dang

Diary of A Celebrity Wife

Being a celebrity wife seems glamorous, it is exciting and sometimes you feel untouchable. Reading comments concerning Kevin Hart’s scandal drove me to write this article and I hope people get to understand us more and not judge. This platform seems to be the right fit.

When I met my husband, I was in awe of him, even though he wasn’t as famous as he is now, he was still famous. He intently pursued me and though I was impressed, I was also worried about heartbreak and the issues of dating a celebrity. He didn’t back down and gradually I saw him as a real human rather than someone who was worshipped by many.

During our courtship, he was the sweetest ever and I was extremely happy with him. He ignored women and had eyes only for me. When we travelled together, he introduced me to everyone and I would notice him look out for me even when he was working. My heart was his but for a long time I refused to have sex with him because I had to hold on to something incase I got heartbroken




Did he cheat while we were dating? I never caught him but there were insinuations in the blogs. It would cause a huge fight when I confronted him because he wondered why I would believe blogs over our own real life experience. There was never any evidence so I let things go

Gradually I began to relax. This man really does love me, he would sometimes decline going anywhere else after he was done with work because I was uncomfortable with how women threw themselves at him plus I wasn’t really a party girl. He loved me first but I fell for him harder and when we got married, I may have had some delusions as to what a marriage based on real love should look like. Read: Just Because He’s A Christian Does Not Mean He is A “God-Fearing Man”

There are women sending nudes, popular and rich women rubbing themselves off on him even when we’re together. Letters and naked pictures have been sent to the house. His private emails are filled with lewd contents that I and him have stopped opening. I am only one person, how many of them can I fend off especially now that we are married with kids who can’t jump around the world with us.

I can’t go out to work with him anymore. I cannot fend off girls and I’m not physically there to caution him. Earlier in the marriage, I’d call girls back who send him text messages. I’d warn them off to leave my husband alone. He didn’t mind, in fact, he seemed to leave that to me. I thought it was okay because this made me realize if he can leave his phone with me and allow me do all that, then he is not cheating

He is actually cheating.

I found this out when I went to surprise him at work one time. I got to his hotel but they still had to call him that I was downstairs. On my way to his room, I saw a girl rush towards me, I took a good look at her because my gut told me she was coming out of my husband’s room. When I got to his room, he took some time to answer the door. My heart sank, I’ve had my suspicions but this time I really knew and it made me extremely sad. When he finally opened the door, he had just gotten out of the shower, but I could still smell sex in the room. I started crying, because I had dreaded this, I fought against it but I felt so powerless now.

He didn’t deny it, he just apologized…a lot and for days. He asked me if he had ever treated me badly, if I had ever felt unloved by him, if he ever slept out when he is in the same state as me. The answer to those questions are “NO”. He begged me to see him as a man with faults who would sometimes misbehave but he will never be irresponsible. I wondered “what does that even mean?”. I was worried about baby mama but what about diseases? He assured me he would be careful.




I had to ask the question I already knew the answer to: “Is this a thing I should get used to? Does this happen often?”. He said “Please never bother yourself with such thoughts. I am your husband, I love you dearly, I am really careful and if you hadn’t surprised me today, you would never have found out. Ever!”

I have my answer.

So here I am. In love and married to a man who I haven’t caught cheating since that one time but I know he is cheating. A man who puts us (his kids and I) first. Who flaunts us without care everywhere. He buys assets in my name and includes me in his business decisions.

I was forced to ask myself: Really, how much temptation can a mere mortal take? He is only human

The life that we live is far removed from regular women whose husbands are not known and lusted after by millions of women. As a Celebrity wife -I’ll speak for myself- I’m not delusional or greedy. It’s just that this man is doing his best and not lacking anywhere else. How do you leave such a man?

If today my husband was caught in Kevin Hart’s position, I’d stay with him still. He and I know what he’ll do that will make me leave him. This is not an easy decision to make or the best situation to be in but cut us some slack. We chose the life we now live, let’s live it in the best way we can without judging and insisting a celebrity wife leaves her cheating husband.

Life is never black and white and I really hope people understand that.

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31 comments on “Diary of A Celebrity Wife: Being A Celebrity Wife is Not The Same As Marrying A Regular Guy

  1. Añuli

    Such a sad story. Smiling and forming Happy despite knowing my husband is cheating on me?? Hmm I can’t process it at all, celebrity or not!




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    1. D

      IO am not a celebrity but i totally agree and understand this woman…… who ever she is! i always tell other women this
      1, good people do bad things cos they are human and bad people do good things cos they are human.
      2, Being faithful to your partner is not an ordinary battle ….. i leave it totally to God….. heck! even the strongest men in the bible fell recklessly ….. it does not right it, but it only shows how human we all are.
      3, your weakness is not my weakness and where i will fail in a temptation is different in where you will fail

      Above all, attractions and feelings are in webs it has nothing to do with Love.




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  2. Miracle Chinonso Oparah

    I always thought of this though. How to Celebrity wives keep up with the pressure? Well, now I think I know how it feels. Poster, sorry for your ordeals. If he loves you then understand his situation then you can work something out.
    DANG, you can check out My blog here. Looking forward to working with you soon.




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  3. Dame

    I beg to disagree but am not married so maybe am wrong
    Being a celeb wife or an average 9-5 worker is the same thing
    they come in contact with all sorts of temptations…its a CHOICE.
    You do not have to divorce him but let your reason not be because he is a celebrity and it comes with the terrain….all men are faced with all sots of temptations…..and they have to choose.

    The girl in the hotel did she appear there?
    if you do not put yourself in that position they would not be there.
    A crazy fan self would not strip in public and have sex with you…it has to be in a room or car or something but my point is there are steps taken by the 2 consenting parties…dazzal

    to each his own…I pray for wisdom for everyone and above all Grace




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    1. JaY

      I completely agree with you, celebrity or not, its a choice we make to be faithful to our spouses. All men and women alike are faced with temptations, so please its no excuse. Sorry for your ordeal ma’am




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  4. Ambra

    This one is just too deep.
    But I understand perfectly what she means.
    I am not married and I know my partner is cheating.
    He apologized for the girl I confirmed and promised me it meant nothing.
    I recently came in contact with my ex, the man I loved for close to a decade, it has taken me all of the resistance in the world not to grab him and kiss and bed him. And it doesn’t help that he wants me back. See ehn, it’s not easy at all. If this is just one person me I’m facing like this, then I agree with her.




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  5. Anonymous

    Well i’m married, not to a celebrity but her reasons for staying mirrors mine exactly ‘putting the kids and i first’, includes me in business decisions and i’m next of kin on all official documents.
    i have never caught him cheating but i can feel it , can’t explain it.
    I love him still and that’s why i’m sticking it




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  6. Miz shona

    Like she said the women sign up for it they know what they are getting into or to expect,the cheating is harder for a celeb but still not an excuse…. And I don’t think my husband should make it sound like i have to settle bkus he has been a good man




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  7. Anonymous

    Until we stop making excuses of he is only human and a man will be a man for men,they will continue to cheat,(yall have made it look like women aren’t human,or they are aliens without any body feelings?what a world), but sorry to say madam celebrity wife,one can’t be too careful with STDs. I wish you the best




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  8. Anonymous

    Wow. I don’t want to judge because I am currently madly in love with my partner and sometimes I imagine what I would do if I caught him cheating on me. I have high standards (immaterial and intrinsic standards) and we have built so much together and he has seen me through so much and I the same. He is also very physically attractive and gets a lot of attention. I wonder if I would have Avebury to give him this excuse. I pray to the Almohhty God that I would never have to be in this situation in Jesus name, Amen. I really do sympathize with the poster. And I don’t know what to say about her husband who vowed to be faithful to her before God and man and has refused to keep fighting temptation. Is sex really a drug? Can we change our thinking about human beings. Does de-objectifying human beings help in reducing the temptations… seeing a human being as a whole and not a means for sexual pleasure? There is more to a man than a big penis and sexy body and money and there is more to a woman than her sexy skin and appealing breasts and buttocks. Much more. We are spiritual beings and when you marry a spiritual being you marry his or her soul and body and everything and you should be too busy developing each other and loving for each other and God to give temptations like these so much attention.




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  9. lifeasvira.blogspot.com.ng

    Sigh.
    While trying to understand all this, I think these are all excuses to allow bad behavior.
    Must he cheat?! Should she allow him cheat cz he is a celebrity?
    If the tables were turned, would he be ok with it cz ‘she is always there for him and the kids’?
    lifeasvira.blogspot.com.ng




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    1. Anonymous

      Exactly! What would his reaction be should the tables be turned? Chances are that she is faced with her own temptations as well, which would mostly likely be harder to deal with due to the fact that she has an unfaithful spouse. What if she started cheating first or she was caught first? Men like that usually wouldn’t be able to take it because they know what they do and how they do it with the women they are sleeping around with. Committing to one person for life through life’s challenges is challenging enough. Why make it more difficult by cheating without remorse or intent to change and do better and be held accountable for it?!




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  10. Bubbles

    Hmmn thought provoking. I’m not married so maybe that’s why I can’t really understand the cheating part. Yes he taking care of u n putting the kids first but he’s not respecting you by cheating. It’s wrong for him to do that, he doesn’t have an excuse but this love ehn too powerful.




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  11. Malik

    I feel so sorry for her. My heart breaks into million pieces just imagining the love of my life would do such a thing to me after so many years; I have given my all to him.

    Girl, if you are reading this… Cheating is normal, but it’s very WRONG. Yes, you can forgive a cheater, if it happens accidentaly once and it really didn’t mean anything. Everyone’s entitled to mistakes. But he made it sound like it’s normal. And that he’ll do it again and again; he’ll just make sure you don’t find out. What does that REALLY even mean? If the public eye doesn’t see it, you won’t be humiliated? He IS humiliating you, girl. You don’t have to see the deed with your own eyes, you don’t have to catch him – but you will know… Always. And it’ll crush you. Your happiness, your aura, your life. You.
    Yes, being a celebrity is f*ed up, and it changes your perception; and I do believe he is not a bad person, and that he is a good dad to your kids. And yes, he may provide for you and flash you around. But it’s not right… He is in no way respecting you. His head doesn’t process what damage it’ll do to your kids and the rest of the family if some of his affairs ever go public (and nothing stays a secret forever, especially in celebrity world). He can still be a good dad, he can still provide, and not be your husband. His head is messed up, and he has some issues and really twisted morals because of his celebrity background and I know you’re finding excuses because you know it’s not easy for him either. But don’t agree to that, girl… you’ll go crazy.
    And, this is a cliche, but there IS someone who would do all of that for you, and still never cheat on you! Maybe financially not that secure, but isn’t love and TRUST and your kids watching the happiness and not sadness in your eyes something that should make you secure? Be smart girl… Stop this. You know the ways… LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!
    I wish all the best to you and your kids!




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  12. Lois

    Well really, the writeup is more of a reality to women who have ‘successful’ men as husbands. If you have a hubby who is wealthy, somewhat successful or even in a leadership position, the submission of the writer is the reality we live day in day out. I married NY husband knowing I was picked amongst many though I never had any confrontation with his other women except for one time I walked into one of his women who did not have the balls for a fight (neither was I. I never have fought over a man. I had options ). Well, women flock successful men be it a celeb or not and the onus remains on the man. Currently, for the past 4 years, my husband found a new spirituality nurtured by our new environment (Abuja. Lagos is a very bad influence). I was even worried. Then he started on how unpure adultery makes one feel (I’m no moron, I know he stopped cutting shows), how he needs to connect with God, how he wants to go to bible school, how the examples of his inately successful friends dedicate themselves to God and abhors adultery. The guy still amazes me. So, its a matter of choice and the situation these men find themselves. Just like a commenter said above, maybe we women do not encounter as much of the temptations our men go through. Maybe if we have moneybags constantly on our cases, maybe we will be able to relate and test our fidelity. Marriage as she said is not black nor white. It has many shades of grey in it




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  13. Free Spirit

    This story is a really sad one. While in school, I had a friend who was engaged (now married) to a celeb and she spoke about how girls do not let him be. My friend is one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever seen, but seeing her talk about how beautiful some of these girls are, made me pity her instantly.
    Dear poster, your husband does not respect you. He knows that cheating hurts you, so why does he keep doing it, and tearing at your self-esteem while at it?
    The funny thing about some of these male celebs who cheat on their wives is that they cheat with girls who would never measure up to the beauty, intelligence and sophistication of these wives. Then you begin to wonder why they can’t curb their greed and lack of self-control. And the poor wife would be getting high BP comparing and contrasting herself with these girls who don’t even measure up and shouldn’t even be a source of headache to her. Men should stop behaving like animals. Adults should know that one can’t do everything one wants to do, because of certain consequences. If breaking the wife’s heart with the possibility of spreading STDs, that should be enough reason to find cheating repulsive.
    I think the poster is a gentle woman and doesn’t want to rock her marriage boat by having more heart-to-heart talks about her concerns without finding excuses for the partner’s cheating. No man would make such an excuse for the wife if the tables are turned so why is the poster allowing this man to be a source of unhappiness to her.
    It’s unfair.
    You might think that you love him now, but with time, that ‘love’ would change to bitterness and resentment as the cheating becomes more blatant and even leaks to the social media space. Can one go to heaven with such a bitter and resentful soul?
    That’s one of the reasons why cheating is a deal breaker for me. I’m not one of those women who can be ‘compensated’ with assets and expensive gifts after catching the partner cheating. Love is the greatest commandment and I have always been a happy and light-hearted person. I don’t want to end up with a cheating husband who would make me miss heaven.




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  14. watcher

    hmmm, I am so sorry for the disappointment poster. I can feel you. I have not caught my husband cheat but I have the feeling his cheating.

    The feeling alone is painful but now that I have realised that it is me first..LOVE URSELF.

    So, I told myself recently, if you love urself don’t disturb urself about him, let God almighty judge.

    Our God never sleeps not slumber.

    I am not ready to leave him if I catch him sha, cos I don’t know what the next man would do.

    And am not ready to be a single mother.

    So, I leave everything to God.




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  16. Seekingwisdom

    A lot of us a writing and saying things like “am not married but this is wrong…” or “am a married woman and this is not an excuse” but let us remember a few things. Do not assume that she doesn’t know that cheating is wrong. Try to understand what she is trying to tell us.
    1. Before the relationship blossomed, she was trying to protect herself against heartbreak. She fell in love and despite what the blogs were saying, she trusted her husband. This can happen to anyone,celebrity or not.
    2. Being a married woman myself, I can think of nothing more painful than your spouse cheating on you. The emotional scars themselves are enough to kill someone.
    3. That being said, consider the fact that she is also a mother. For the sake of the children and their health and well being ( emotional, psychological etc), she chose to stay in the marriage.
    4. How many of you receive love letters for your husbands/wives on a daily basis? She mentioned that they send them to their house, emails,phone calls etc So how then are we in a position to tell her what to do? Can you imagine dealing with this on a DAILY basis?
    So this is what I think:
    1. Before tell her to leave him, let us consider her. She loves him and wants her mariage to work.
    2. What is best for her at this moment? She needs to forgive and heal first. Once the Lord heals her, she will be in a position to pray for her husband.
    3. Why pray for him? She wants to remain married ( and that is a good thing). It is only God that is able to change someone’s heart. When the Lord touches him, he will be faithful to his wife and family.

    Let us lift them in prayer and ask God to restore that family for His Glory. Marriage is worth fighting for!
    Remain blessed!




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