This is Why You Should Breakup on Good Terms

5 September 21, 2017 By Dang

This is Why You Should Breakup on Good Terms: A broken heart doesn’t always have to mean a broken bond.

If someone has really disappointed you or just not turned out to be the partner you wanted, it’s tempting to just hand him his *ss when you end things. You may want to list everything that is wrong with his personality. You may want to point out every selfish thing he ever did. You may even want to say nothing at all and just ghost the guy. But, as hard as this may be to believe, it’s actually good to breakup on good terms. Sure, it doesn’t allow you to unleash your rage in the moment, but it will inevitably have you feeling a lot better later.

1. There are no regrets

We say things we don’t mean when we’re angry. Our words at that time hits hard because both parties are emotional and vulnerable. And at the very least, nobody has ever regretted having a civil breakup. Being polite and respectful has never led to anything bad. Meanwhile, really laying into your ex can certainly have negative effects in future…you may never know

2. There’s no hostility

In these kinds of breakups, no one fights. You don’t fight with each other or fight for each other. There’s no screaming, insulting, or drunken breakdowns in the middle of the night.There’s just acceptance that things are over and that moving on is th next best step to take Read: This Is What Being Faithful Means Because It’s More Than Not Sleeping Around

3. It’s less exhausting

Angry and negative breakups are exhausting. You just wind up having all the fights that are the exact reason you’re breaking up! If you’ve decided it’s time to end things, then just say that. Don’t say why because I can promise you your version of why is different than his version and the breakup will turn into a fight.

Even though it’s harder to try and remain friends or at least maintain a civil relationship, it’s entirely worth it. Cutting each other out of your lives may be the easy way out but it is also a complete waste of a really powerful connection. You were in love with this person, which means you enjoyed their personality a lot. They were able to make you laugh and smile. You don’t have to throw that all away.

4. Someone you know may date him one day

A distant relative, colleague or neighbor may date your ex one day. If you breakup on good terms, seeing him around will not be emotionally draining.Or would you want both of you to remember the time you stood on a chair and announced to everyone in the restaurant that he has a small penis?

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5 comments on “This is Why You Should Breakup on Good Terms

  1. Anonymous

    When I experienced heartbreak, it came through ending the relationship cordially. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why he was ending it. I mean, we seemed really good so far. But I didn’t fight. You can’t force a person to want you. I remember that the best way I could get over him was by severing every contact with him. Unfriending him on facebook, unfollowing on instagram, deleting his number and every correspondence we ever had. (I was a mess ?). I told him plainly that I couldn’t be his friend cos it would be hard to heal. We are back on talking terms now, but it’s quite civil, sadly (we were very tight friends before becoming lovers). And I sure won’t like to see anyone I know in a relationship with him. I’ve moved on, believe me, I just feel it would be awkward.
    What am I trying to say, sometimes after a cordial breakup, there could still be an ice barrier between the parties but then no point messing it up further by creating bad blood.
    Thanks for the write up




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  2. W

    When I experienced heartbreak, it came through ending the relationship cordially. I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why he was ending it. I mean, we seemed really good so far. But I didn’t fight. You can’t force a person to want you. I remember that the best way I could get over him was by severing every contact with him. Unfriending him on facebook, unfollowing on instagram, deleting his number and every correspondence we ever had. (I was a mess ?). I told him plainly that I couldn’t be his friend cos it would be hard to heal. We are back on talking terms now, but it’s quite civil, sadly (we were very tight friends before becoming lovers). And I sure won’t like to see anyone I know in a relationship with him. I’ve moved on, believe me, I just feel it would be awkward.
    What am I trying to say, sometimes after a cordial breakup, there could still be an ice barrier between the parties but then no point messing it up further by creating bad blood.
    Thanks for the write up




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  3. Ol

    When i had my first heartbreak, the guy said he wasn’t feeling the relationship anymore. I cried for one hour, reminded myself of who i am and i couldn’t even bring myself to hate him. He says hello once in a while and i reply him nicely. He comments on my pictures but i never let him get to me or change who i am. Now he is the one scared of seeing me or my friends. He is always squeamish around my friends whereas i can call him to ask for favour without hesitation. I am so glad the breakup happened. ????




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  4. Anonymous

    It really depends on how you guys broke up. He might really be a toxic person. That case, not point being friends or keeping in touch. It’s really not necessary




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  5. Thelma

    I’m still friends with most of my exes. After time has healed the hurt, I reach out to some of them. In fact one of my ex-boyfriends introduced my sister to her amazing husband. But my last ex, I don’t think we can ever be friends. He was my best friend before we broke up. I suffered severed depression and gave up on myself after he betrayed me. This was in 2015, I’m glad I’m over it (Even though it took me more than a year). I don’t think I want him in my life, no point in being friends.




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