This is Why You Should Breakup on Good Terms: A broken heart doesn’t always have to mean a broken bond.
If someone has really disappointed you or just not turned out to be the partner you wanted, it’s tempting to just hand him his *ss when you end things. You may want to list everything that is wrong with his personality. You may want to point out every selfish thing he ever did. You may even want to say nothing at all and just ghost the guy. But, as hard as this may be to believe, it’s actually good to breakup on good terms. Sure, it doesn’t allow you to unleash your rage in the moment, but it will inevitably have you feeling a lot better later.
1. There are no regrets
We say things we don’t mean when we’re angry. Our words at that time hits hard because both parties are emotional and vulnerable. And at the very least, nobody has ever regretted having a civil breakup. Being polite and respectful has never led to anything bad. Meanwhile, really laying into your ex can certainly have negative effects in future…you may never know
2. There’s no hostility
In these kinds of breakups, no one fights. You don’t fight with each other or fight for each other. There’s no screaming, insulting, or drunken breakdowns in the middle of the night.There’s just acceptance that things are over and that moving on is th next best step to take Read: This Is What Being Faithful Means Because It’s More Than Not Sleeping Around
3. It’s less exhausting
Angry and negative breakups are exhausting. You just wind up having all the fights that are the exact reason you’re breaking up! If you’ve decided it’s time to end things, then just say that. Don’t say why because I can promise you your version of why is different than his version and the breakup will turn into a fight.
Even though it’s harder to try and remain friends or at least maintain a civil relationship, it’s entirely worth it. Cutting each other out of your lives may be the easy way out but it is also a complete waste of a really powerful connection. You were in love with this person, which means you enjoyed their personality a lot. They were able to make you laugh and smile. You don’t have to throw that all away.
4. Someone you know may date him one day
A distant relative, colleague or neighbor may date your ex one day. If you breakup on good terms, seeing him around will not be emotionally draining.Or would you want both of you to remember the time you stood on a chair and announced to everyone in the restaurant that he has a small penis?