Do Not Act Like a Maid to Win Cool Points From Your In-Laws

7 August 17, 2017 By Dang

So many ladies and some men are ready to do anything, including act like maids to win cool points from their in-laws. I believe most times, you help because you want to look good not because you’re showing respect to the elderly. Your intentions matter

One time I was invited to a Christmas party by a guy who was asking me out. I had nothing to do so I attended, hoping to make it brief. “Come and greet my mum” he said

We headed straight to the back of the house, where she was seated, giving orders to caterers and helps. Everyone was just going up and down acting busy. I greeted her, asked her if she needed help, she said “you want to join this circus?” I laughed, pulled a chair and sat with her anyway Read: When is a Relationship A Relationship?

I noticed she didn’t get up from her seat, just gave orders. I told myself to start a conversation with her instead of sitting there going through an awkward silence. So we struck up a conversation and it was one of the most intelligent and insightful conversations I had ever had. Turned out, my intelligence mattered more to her than my domestic skills

I didn’t lift a finger or go out of my way to help. But I was there anyway if there was something I could help with. That’s how my mama taught me, not to win cool points but to show respect by asking to help the elderly when I visit their home

Going to see your boyfriend, girlfriend or potential and helping his or her parents with chores should be a thing of respect, not because you want to win cool points. If you don’t have to do anything, sit down and be confident in who you are. Don’t run around trying to look domestic

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If you do it for the wrong reasons, you’ll regret acting like a maid when you find out you did all that for nothing. Act normal, be nice and have no expectations

Those parents will see right through you anyway

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7 comments on “Do Not Act Like a Maid to Win Cool Points From Your In-Laws

  1. Ell

    Lol. I’m not helping anyone out because I want to win cool points. Ain’t nobody got time for that. If I have to start overcompensating in the domestic area with his parents, then there is a problem already. When I offer to help, it is simply out of respect.




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  2. Ritzy

    dis article is really a nice one,,…..imagine some gals becoming maids before their inlaws just for their inlaws to love dem..no mata how a gal turns herself to a slave,if her inlaws detest her she can’t change it……as for me I will do no such thing for the sake of luv




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  3. Anonymous

    Smiles… This is very correct as am typing this am currently sick and my In law to be paid the bill and said i must come over to their place to rest mind you whenever i visit I don’t impress or do the cookings nd my fiance will like I do my parent get to like you..”They really see through you either ways”




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  4. Anonymous

    NEVER EVER try that…how long does one want to even pretend to her inlaws. A lady i know tried that during courtship..always trying to form the “wife” .After she got married to the guy and her mother in law came to spend some time with them.She showed the MIL Pepper Lol…although the MIL had her own wahala during her stay with them




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  5. Funke

    Growing up I thought it was just right to help when you go and visit your to be in laws or whatever category they are in but I know better now, I can’t be someone I’m not because I want to look cool.
    Anyone trying to do this will get tired eventually. I hope more people read this post a because it’s this little things that matters
    Helping is fine only if it’s something you will normally do.

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  6. kay

    I have a cousin who has been doing this since she was in secondary school, she can’t sit still at parties or any gathering, she must help out. she really loves it, she gets there early n leaves late helping in any way, she can even serve me food or stuff, it’s just who she is. If any in-law or sth thought she was doing it to impress they would be gravely mistaken.




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