Dear Teenage Self,
I write this to you from the place of Knowledge of who you are and who you are becoming.
Never base your career choice on other people’s ideas, goals and recommendations. Remember that time you wanted so badly to tell mum you didn’t want to study law or go to the university? You chickened out. All you wanted to do was go to a film school and study script writing and film production. Don’t be scared, follow your heart, your path is not crowded, you’re on to something big. Hopefully, Mum and dad will see your passion and support you. More importantly, you won’t wake up several years later working in a career field you despise, wondering “How the heck am I going to do this for the next 30 years?” . You’ll never work hard when you concentrate on your passion(s)
Having too many friends is overrated: You have too many friends, you know you get negative vibes from some of them but you hang in there, hoping they’ll change or the vibes around them will get better. The companion you keep will affect your life and decisions, you need to learn to step away when there’s negativity. Aggressively avoid it and appreciate the people who uplift your spirit. Never apologise for picking your friends wisely
Stop looking for a husband in every man that asks you out: You’re a teenager, he’s probably some years older and your are already wondering if he’s the one you’ll marry. Have fun a little, open your mind to possibilities and enjoy the dating process. Unlike what has been hammered in your ears, marriage has no age limit, go with the flow and never allow anyone pressure you to have sex
Always be honest with yourself and others. – You worry too much about telling people what you think, so you bottle things up and explode at the slightest provocation. You cherish peace of mind and love living peacefully with others. Living a life of honesty creates peace of mind, and peace of mind is priceless. Be nice, but be Honest. Period.
Don’t let anyone tell you you’re too sensitive, because this is what makes you stand out and see what others don’t see. You worry you may be too emotional, this is okay too. Be yourself, don’t put pressure on yourself to conform to how people want you to live, as you grow older, you will manage your emotions better. For now, be who you were born to be
There will so many moments of joy and happy times. There are so many days you will sleep smiling at life. Please appreciate everyday, and live. Don’t stop writing,In those words, you will find yourself, you will find healing, because there is immense pain in your future, and you must learn to pour it all out from your heart through your finger tips. I hate to tell you this, but life is easier for you right now. It only gets harder, decisions you have to make are no more black and white, the mistakes you make will be solely yours to bear. So right now, live.
Don’t worry about how you’ll turn out, you don’t have to figure everything out now. Time will reveal itself and you will be fine, I promise you.