This is what Facebook user, Bukola Afolabi Ogunyeye had to say about billionaire kidnapper Evans’ Wife
“So Mrs Evans is the bad wife? She is the woman who couldn’t direct her husband through the right path, she is the curse in Evans’ life…..
I want to be the devil’s advocate here…
How many women know their husband’s true source of income? How many women know how much their husbands earn? How many women can boldly ask their husbands “How much is your salary? Can I see your pay slip?
Let’s just pretend it is improper for a man to let his wife know his income and a woman still needs to “be asking” such questions from her husband. Someone she exposes her nakedness to. But there are some lines she dare not cross with him, after all, he provides the needs of the family.
Some years ago, when I was still in School, we were waiting for the Lecturer to enter the class when a general conversation came up on this topic.
The guys said they can’t disclose their income to their wives.
One said, “She has no business with how much I earn” If a man truly wants to prosper, he should never disclose his financial status to his wife.
I shook my head.
But we are here blaming Evans’ wife right?
We sound like we don’t know what it is like to be a woman in Nigeria.
A Nigerian woman is required to be submissive, keep quiet, don’t talk, pray for your husband, your husband is your head, be a good wife, bla bla bla bla
But here we are, blaming Mrs Evans. Really?
Are we not the same Society who preaches “submission” to women? Are we not the same society who tells a woman to never confront her husband? Are we not the same society who tells a woman to pray for her husband? Are we not the same society who tells a woman to be virtuous?
Now, we expect Mrs Evans to be in the know of everything her husband is doing as a “good wife” . We expect Mrs Evans to be aware of the “real” source of her husband’s wealth?
This sick society keeps pulling a woman left, right and center, But we still set that standard for her!
Mrs Evans is a victim of this sick society.