When is A Good Time To Move Out of Your Parents’ House?

7 June 16, 2017 By Dang

When is A Good Time To Move Out of Your Parents’ House?

I moved out at the age of 27. I lived with my dad then I later had to move in with my sister due to work proximity. Living with my sister was fun as I got to hang out with my nephews. My sister never bothered me and made me feel at home the best she could, it felt like I was living at home

Suddenly I started to feel uneasy, I was 27 years old, I could afford to get a place, why was I holding back? I remember my colleagues and I had this discussion and most of them said, “who will marry a single girl living by herself?”. So I stayed back.Even though I could come and go as I pleased, I felt like my sister’s young family needed their privacy

When I decided I didn’t care what anyone thought and it was time to become responsible for myself and my living situation, I didn’t give anyone a choice. I told my dad that I had gotten a place of my own and it would be nice if he could help me move as well. He looked at me like I was about to commit murder, then he asked me, “why?”. He looked so disappointed but I was ready for him, so I said “because I want to be able to eat the last meat in the pot without feeling terrible”. He knew I was messing with him so he shook his head and proceeded to lecture me on how to stay safe Read: Building our kids’ self esteem: A lesson from my mama

About the meat, I wasn’t really messing with him. It’s rude to eat the last meat in the pot when you have older people living with you or in my case, when you’re a guest. So imagine this: during my mid night munch I find that there’s only one meat left and I had already cooked noodles! It was time to move mehn, it’s time for me to eat the last piece of protein in the pot without worrying about decorum

Signing my first lease brought out a rush of emotions…I was scared, hopeful, excited and angry that I was scared. I was angry at myself because at 27, I was scared of being responsible for myself? I quickly signed the lease and gave my sister a hug. It was done, I really did it. Did I feel any different after I moved out? Not immediately. I missed home so much, I would go back to spend weekends with my nephews. Gradually, my home started feeling comfortable and I began to crave the comfort of my space, the freedom to move around in the house clad, semi clad or totally nude.

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There are of course more responsibilities. Such as, paying utilities yourself, cleaning by yourself, doing laundry by yourself, shopping by yourself and sometimes having to stop by a fast food restaurant after work, knowing there’s no prepared meal waiting for you at home. These and more toughened me up in a hurry and it sure did me a world of good

You may not know exactly where leaving the nest will lead, but I promise you, you will forge your own path and learn a great deal about yourself and others along the way.

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7 comments on “When is A Good Time To Move Out of Your Parents’ House?

  1. K

    I think I was 24 when I moved out. My mum acted like I had killed someone. But I loved being responsible for myself. 18 years later, I absolutely have no regrets!




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  2. Amarachi

    I feel weird living with my parents at 25, as I am doing my postgraduate diploma, but I have been struggling on my own to get a room self contained apartment in Ogba. Anybody have an idea how much I can get one without involving agents should please help a sister out. You can contact me through cathyslimy@gmail.com




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  3. Anonymous

    It’s just quite unfortunate the way the society treats the female generation. It’s owk for a guy to move out when he dims it fit but it’s totally a taboo for the female folk.
    I know this landlord, middle fifties, who will not let out his house to a single lady. Can you imagine that?




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  4. Anonymous

    I moved out when I got a job in a different state and i could pay my bills. Living alone while single beats living with relatives




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  5. anonymous

    I’m 27 and I’m thinking of moving out. My dad won’t have an issue with it, but my mum will. I’m not just sure how to go about it




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  6. Anonymous

    Am 34 and just moved out of the house. Presently am squatting with a friend but getting my own apartment by november ending(with my laid down plans) by his Grace. Only my siblings knows i’ve moved out but had to cook up a story for my parents cos my mother will cry herself out that i moved. thank you so much ife,you have boosted my confidence more.




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