Diary of A Naija Guy: What is Marriage Really About?Turning Your Wife into A Househelp?

5 June 15, 2017 By Dang

What is marriage really about?

There’s a married couple staying close to my apartment and they quarrel almost everyday. When they start fighting, you will hardly hear the woman’s voice but the man is always at the top of his. What they fight about are really unnecessary but what do I know?

Either the man gets angry that the woman didn’t greet him well or she didn’t serve his food well enough because she forgot to add toothpick. The other morning, it was about the woman not making the bed after they woke up. I heard her saying she stood up first to prepare breakfast while the man was still sleeping

In all honesty, this isn’t suppose to cause any wahala but then, the man started shouting again… “You are stupid, you are mad, idiot, you lack manners, you are proud, I’ll slap you…” and many more hurtful words.

I just kept wondering whether making bed was such a big deal. I would hear the woman in a low tone say things like “I’m not mad…I’m not stupid…”

Now, I just wanna know what marriage is about. Because as a bachelor, you do your chores without any help, you cook your food, make your bed, serve yourself without worrying about toothpicks and all. Is marriage suppose to change all these?

Is marriage about giving all your responsibilities to another? Telling your partner to do everything you can do by yourself? My neighbour and his wife both work. The woman is a medical practitioner. Yet she finds time to do everything and is still bashed for it

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I’m a young man and I know this is wrong. In my opinion, this is matrimonial slavery and I don’t agree with it. By the way, I’m still learning about life. Everyday I work to kill my pride but one day, I’m gonna make someone’s daughter the happiest woman alive.

Written For Diaryofanaijagirl by KayKross

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5 comments on “Diary of A Naija Guy: What is Marriage Really About?Turning Your Wife into A Househelp?

  1. Dee

    i just came across this site &have beem reading old posts; i wonder why this has no single comment.ppster,men like u are few.May God grant your heart desire of wanting to make someone else’s daughter happy someday &bless u with that special one who will fit in perfectly.




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  2. Anonymous

    That is emotional abuse and can eventually lead to the woman being physically abused. It’s so disheartening to read this….I wish we had a better police force or case workers who the man can be reported to or something my heart goes out to the woman. I pray she receives the grace, courage , wisdom and strength needed to combat this situation…and that something clicks in the man so he is aware and stops before he loses out.




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