Linda Ikeji, Chigul, Betty Irabor On the Pressure To Marry Before 30

4 May 22, 2017 By Dang

“But don’t you want to get married soon?” This question comes up a lot in your thirties because at that age the traditional mindset is that that you’ve had plenty of time to date, and you should be settling down and starting a family by now. Linda Ikeji, Betty Irabor and Chigul talk to Genevieve Magazine about the pressure to get married at a certain age and how they handle it

Linda Ikeji

“Marriage is not an achievement. There is so much more to life than being someone’s wife. Get married please, but don’t be pressured into it. I don’t know how many of you single girls are under pressure to get married but I am. Pressure from family, friends and people who just can’t mind their business. Read: That time I called off my wedding

The pressure is so intense right now I feel like going to husband market – if there is any such thing- to buy myself some breathing space. Give me a break you people.



Chigurl

linda ikeji Chigul

“In my opinion, the pressure is not a fabrication. It is very real ! After you have won asoebi about a million times, you begin to wonder when it is going to be your turn to sell asoebi too ! And when you factor in mums and aunties constantly reminding you about the shelf life of women. It gets to you, even if it is just a bit.

People may even suggest some very strange things to you to do to ‘earn’ marriage. Well, I have come to realise that we allow ourselves to be pressured. The decision to get married should not be taken because you are being pressured, that could lead to a disaster. Don’t let anyone make you go into anything you are not ready for or your joy may be shortlived. And to those mounting pressure on others to go and get married, there is simply no justification for your behaviour

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Betty Irabor

linda ikeji

“I don’t think women should be worried about being married before 30 because many women before that age have not yet gone through the school of life which prepares them for marriage”.

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4 comments on “Linda Ikeji, Chigul, Betty Irabor On the Pressure To Marry Before 30

  1. Anonymous

    The pressurebis real, both subtle and intense types of pressure from family and nosy neighbours. May God help us to be patient and to have discernment.




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  2. Hbeusan

    The pressure WAS real most especially from non family members but thank God I am a clapback queen..gave them the reply they deserve. Everyone has a person,time for them.




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