Some things have stood the test of time; Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher are a shining example of love’s longevity. They made a commitment to spend all of their tomorrows together on May 13, 1924. They share their secret to their long lasting marriage below:
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure. Divorce was NEVER an option, or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We were best friends before we married. A friend is for life; our marriage has lasted a lifetime.
3. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support, and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest, and true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.
6. You got married very young – how did you both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
Everyone who plants a seed and harvests the crop celebrates together. We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
7. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.
8. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
9. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It
was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children; otherwise I would have lost my mind.Read: Mr and Mrs Oladimeji, married for 41 Years
10. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest, never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.
11. Is fighting important?
Never physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, and fight for what really matters.
Learn to bend – not break!
12. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
…We pray with and for each other every day.
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