The Waiting Game: When Restraint is Desperately Needed

Photo credit: ANDRE CEZAR VIA GETTY IMAGE 4 November 09, 2016 By Dang

Recently I met a guy who sent me straight to Jesus asking for strength. I am not in a desperate place, I am simply living my life and loving it while setting myself up for Mr. Right.

Then this Mr. came along. Distracted the life out of me. He was handsome, intelligent, very hardworking and funny. Plus he was playful like me. As we got along, I began to see that our values do not match. It didn’t stop him from being a good person but it just showed me that we wanted different things that both of us couldn’t compromise on.

When I started thinking in my mind that “maybe i can push things around, maybe I can change him to see things my way”, I had a panic attack. I was desperately in need of prayers because even I knew that not everyone that is good TO you is good FOR you.

I understand that majority of us single girls, who have waited patiently for so long quickly get optimistic when a gentle man comes our way. But, just because you like someone and they like you too doesn’t mean you’re compatible.

When we have fun with a man AND are attracted to him, we tend to forget our chore heart desires and begin to tell ourselves it will work out despite the important things that don’t fit. In this case, just like it happened to me, you need extra help.

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I realized that left to me, I would do whatever made me happy at that time. So, after I prayed and genuinely asked God to keep me from enjoying the now and enduring the future, I stopped picking his calls. I didn’t want to be a jerk, but desperate times called for desperate measures.

Now I know, exercising restraint is hard but it won’t kill anyone. It will only make us more confident in ourselves, that we are capable of making the right decisions.

This post was first published on the 9th of November 2016.


4 comments on “The Waiting Game: When Restraint is Desperately Needed

  1. Anonymous

    This is me over and over again. I have this thing I need to see in a guy before dating him, but then a good guy comes along and I see myself unconsciously letting my list go. My Ex had great anger issues and though he never hit me I was always on the edge when with him, not for me but for others. It was leading to marraige and I was saying as far as he loves me that’s all that counts. Did I mention that he’s an atheist and I am a Christian. But he was a good man. It took for him to be transferred to another country before I could call it off completely.


  2. Anonymous

    I do dis so much and in even in d end, I get hurt mostly bt at times I jst feel prolly my standards are idiotic in nature…


  3. Anonymous

    The struggle to find the one for you can be real. When all is said and done being happy in marriage is what’s important and not being married itself.



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