Recently I met a guy who sent me straight to Jesus asking for strength. I am not in a desperate place, I am simply living my life and loving it while setting myself up for Mr. Right.
Then this Mr. came along. Distracted the life out of me. He was handsome, intelligent, very hardworking and funny. Plus he was playful like me. As we got along, I began to see that our values do not match. It didn’t stop him from being a good person but it just showed me that we wanted different things that both of us couldn’t compromise on.
When I started thinking in my mind that “maybe i can push things around, maybe I can change him to see things my way”, I had a panic attack. I was desperately in need of prayers because even I knew that not everyone that is good TO you is good FOR you.
I understand that majority of us single girls, who have waited patiently for so long quickly get optimistic when a gentle man comes our way. But, just because you like someone and they like you too doesn’t mean you’re compatible.
When we have fun with a man AND are attracted to him, we tend to forget our chore heart desires and begin to tell ourselves it will work out despite the important things that don’t fit. In this case, just like it happened to me, you need extra help.
I realized that left to me, I would do whatever made me happy at that time. So, after I prayed and genuinely asked God to keep me from enjoying the now and enduring the future, I stopped picking his calls. I didn’t want to be a jerk, but desperate times called for desperate measures.
Now I know, exercising restraint is hard but it won’t kill anyone. It will only make us more confident in ourselves, that we are capable of making the right decisions.
This post was first published on the 9th of November 2016.