Monthly Archives: November 2016

When I Become A Grandmother: Zero Chill Zone

I’ve always wondered the kind of person I would be as a grandma. I know I’ll be the hot cool forever young grandma. Still following fashion trends and moving with the times

Due to experience, I’ll know wether a guy is serious with my grand daughter or not. She had better trust me because I’ll know what I’m talking about. I will be too happy to look down my nose at the young ones though, shaking my head saying “In our days when I was in town, things were not like this…”

I really don’t like gossip but I won’t mind sitting with my friends, with a bottle of wine, judging young People. What else is there to do than pass judgement on their poor judgment? That would be fun

Ofcourse I’ll spoil my grand children rotten and use a walking stick even when I don’t need one just so I can have a permanent cane nearby for a quick tap or two on their skull when they misbehave. After that, I sneak them cookies

Just blurting out everything in my head without fear of getting told off would be great too. Imagine seeing someone like Timaya at the airport and telling him straight to his face “my son, why are your pants so tight?” And Timaya would look really embarrassed and ashamed of himself. That would give me so much joy

My grandma days will definitely be lit

The Waiting Game: When Restraint is Desperately Needed

Recently I met a guy who sent me straight to Jesus asking for strength. I am not in a desperate place, I am simply living my life and loving it while setting myself up for Mr. Right.

Then this Mr. came along. Distracted the life out of me. He was handsome, intelligent, very hardworking and funny. Plus he was playful like me. As we got along, I began to see that our values do not match. It didn’t stop him from being a good person but it just showed me that we wanted different things that both of us couldn’t compromise on.

When I started thinking in my mind that “maybe i can push things around, maybe I can change him to see things my way”, I had a panic attack. I was desperately in need of prayers because even I knew that not everyone that is good TO you is good FOR you.

I understand that majority of us single girls, who have waited patiently for so long quickly get optimistic when a gentle man comes our way. But, just because you like someone and they like you too doesn’t mean you’re compatible.

When we have fun with a man AND are attracted to him, we tend to forget our chore heart desires and begin to tell ourselves it will work out despite the important things that don’t fit. In this case, just like it happened to me, you need extra help.

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I realized that left to me, I would do whatever made me happy at that time. So, after I prayed and genuinely asked God to keep me from enjoying the now and enduring the future, I stopped picking his calls. I didn’t want to be a jerk, but desperate times called for desperate measures.

Now I know, exercising restraint is hard but it won’t kill anyone. It will only make us more confident in ourselves, that we are capable of making the right decisions.

This post was first published on the 9th of November 2016.