Why Letting Go of “The One” is Okay

6 October 14, 2016 By Dang

Sometime this year I let go of the one person I thought was “the one”. The one I had a strong conviction about, maybe because he did all the right things and made me think it was time to breathe a sigh of relief. I was already loving the fact that I was never going to have to live through another awful first date

I have never been afraid of work, so this applies to the effort I put in my relationships. Even though my spirit may be weary and my emotions drained, I drag myself up, find the strength to try and make things work out. However, I also know that relationships are also meant to be your breath of fresh air in the craziness that is life. When you’re having an awful day at work, a family member is driving you crazy or your best friend is acting up, your significant other is supposed to be the person that is there to give you a hug. Aside from God, he should also be your resting place. They are not meant to add additional stress to your already stressful life

Compromise: If you are in a relationship where the person only cares about themselves and their needs, run. Run fast. If they are all about themselves now, imagine how they’ll be when shit hits the fan and you have a mortgage, two cars and three babies that all depend on you. In a successful relationship there will be times when they are the focus, there will be times when you are the focus, and there will be times when the focus is split evenly. You are each others rock, but one person can only remain the rock for so long before the weight ultimately ends up crushing you; rendering you useless to them and to yourself

So I made a decision, and let go. It was clear what I needed to do but the aftermath was very painful…the kind of pain I as a writer was not able to express in words. But me being a naturally happy person with help from friends and family, was able to override the pain

I am more convinced now, wether it be my 1st or my 4th, kissing the frogs before finding the prince isn’t something to be ashamed about. Just like everything I set my heart to, I will never give up on love. Thankfully, we all get more than one shot

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6 comments on “Why Letting Go of “The One” is Okay

  1. Omon

    I had this talk with a close friend about a similar situation. You see even though we are very close I try to be cautious in my words to avoid overstepping my limit. The fiance is a very self centered person as in if I start I wont end his gist . But in a long run its always their cross to bear she alone has to make that decision. Whatever she chooses I will always be there for her that’s what friends do .




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  2. G

    Same thing happened to me months ago we had to split… It was tough for me and still is now that i even know he has moved on and dating another. i just force myself to be happy and think happy thoughts




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  3. Anonymous

    I’ve been in love with someone my whole life (6 years) now, i’m not so sure I love her but everything has been perfect…letting go seems such a difficult thing to do.




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  5. laney

    this was an awesome read. Its really hard letting go for whatever reasons but in the end it turns out to be the best decision. Signs




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  6. Anonymous

    You captured the exact feelings ive had recently. Just eerily spot on. Its a dull pain, its draining to think of starting over. Youve let your hair down, taken off your heels, worn comfy clothes, grabbed some popcorn and then realize your warm place has suddenly turned really cold…




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