Don’t Be That Girl: Over 30, Single, Desperate and Worried

13 September 24, 2016 By Dang

This woman, we know her, we are her, or like me, we were that girl. This is the woman who is continuosly obsessed with trying to find a man or CONSTANTLY sad about not having one. So she becomes desperate, settles or gets overwhelmed with sadness because she’s so consumed thinking about what is not happening in her life instead of what is happening

To be honest, for me, unless you need to be married to please people or the society, there really isn’t a good reason to worry about being single. Life is very interesting when we pay attention and make the effort to live deliberately

There is a particular scent to desperate women, people with healthy emotional state quickly get put off by it. You don’t want to be that woman with the desperate vibe…trust me

This immense sadness you feel, can be turned into self love, fulfilment and inner peace if you focus your energy on being a happy person, living life for yourself, helping others and genuinely enjoying the company of friends and people you have things in common with. You have to start whatever it is you’ve been procrastinating on…you deserve to experience life fully by yourself too

At some point you’ll meet someone potentially worth marrying, but don’t be fooled to think that you might be a happier, more fulfilled person just because you checked “Married” on your list. Living your single life to the fullest, makes you completely ready to give a worthy partner all of your commitment and love

If you are reading this and you are that friend, sister, brother, uncle and or aunty putting pressure on women to go get married, you need to cool it. If you find someone you think they can be compatible with, hook them up, if not, exercise patience and enjoy life with them

I saw this somewhere and wrote it down …“Listen, when I was a little girl, I used to spend hours looking for ladybugs. Finally, I’d just give up and fall asleep in the grass. when I woke up, they were crawling all over me.”

I pray that one day, we’ll share one another’s wonderful love story…

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13 comments on “Don’t Be That Girl: Over 30, Single, Desperate and Worried

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  3. Just became 32

    I have been single for over 3years and my attempts at meeting guys have been a total mess. I’m d only single one left in my circle n my friends have done all sort to hookme up. I am not picky but I know when my spirit/ guts blends with a guy. If I feel the calmness I make an effort but its either d guy goes ghost or its unrequited. For d once I dnt see us going anywhere I let them know quickly. I like my happiness more than staying unhappy in where my heart isn’t alive. Problem is friends have stopped and hookup and I haven’t met anyone. It gets painfully lonely 65% of the time if not more (dnt ask how I reach that statistics lol) and yes I work n even go on dates with myself just to get noticed instead of being a hermit and I’m pretty but still nothing. Got tired of family reunions as d Prayers with a pinch of “what is happening?”, ” God will do it”, “let me take u somewhere” etc are just too much for me. Your first paragraph depicts me well and somedays I just cry knowing my fone wouldn’t ring, no guy to checkup on me or hangout with friends as they are with their SOs. I’m very disciplined and dnt even entertain sex when I yearn for it all in d name of waiting it out. I pray for strength n peace to wait, wisdom and discernment to know when he comes my way and not to sabotage my gift. God help me.




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    1. Anonymous

      Babe, pls enjoy the freedom your single life allows. Save up and take yourself on a vacation, love yourself and enjoy the wonderful person that you are, and cast these burdens on God. Trust Him to bring the right one He’s been preparing for you. He will but let your heart be set on God not the man else he will be an idol when he comes




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    2. Am 32 too and single

      Does it get at me? Yes.
      Do I let it really bother me? Truthfully, no.
      Why? Because I know who I am.
      Friends that try to constantly want to remind me? I ditch them like flash(i hope you are a movie lover like me?
      Then I ask myself some real questions like what of if you are destined never to be married? Scary, right? But what if?
      Let me tell you what I tell myself when I look in the mirror, enjoy the now and leave the rest to him that already knows tomorrow. You will be fine?




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  5. Am 32 too and single

    Does it get at me? Yes.
    Do I let it really bother me? Truthfully, no.
    Why? Because I know who I am.
    Friends that try to constantly want to remind me? I ditch them like flash(i hope you are a movie lover like me?
    Then I ask myself some real questions like what of if you are destined never to be married? Scary, right? But what if?
    Let me tell you what I tell myself when I look in the mirror, enjoy the now and leave the rest to him that already knows tomorrow. You will be fine?




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