Monthly Archives: July 2016

Depression: My Story

Depression: I have been there, I can personally define it

Everything is going so well, and suddenly there’s a huge stone in your chest. The weight is brought upon by a memory, pain, disappointment, unmet expectations or just boredom. As the weight becomes heavier, it becomes more difficult to fight it, so you succumb to it, crawl under your blanket and never want to get up

Then you become a spectator, watching your life go by, having no urge to get back on the field, no feelings, just emptiness. Sometimes you have to get up to go to work, or meet an appointment, so you do so. Get dressed and not remember how or why you chose the outfit, go for your meeting but wanting desperately to go back home to bed

No one is allowed to visit, calls are ignored, because once someone asks you “what is wrong” you genuinely have no answer

You grieve for nothing, you grieve for everything. You feel so exhausted, and would rather be asleep than awake

I came out of it after two weeks, because my sister, my dad and my very close friends would not give up on reaching out. It gradually dawned on me, I have so much to be grateful for, to live for, to expect and so much to do. It didnt happen overnight, but it did

I took my time, I didnt force the healing, I let it run its course, but I talked about it to people who cared. Hearing my own voice put things in perspective and gradually the fog cleared

If you know someone going though this, don’t give up on them, if you’re going through depression, I hope you read this and find your way out. Life with all its craziness shouldn’t be lived as a spectator

Yahoo, Previously Worth $125 Billion Dollars in the Year 2000 was Today Sold for $4.8 Billion to Verizon

Lesson to Learn: This shows that you have to continue reinventing yourself. Your success is not permanent unless you find ways to renew and reinvent your content, service and brand

Bye bye Yahoo, Google and all other social networks aren’t safe either. The competition is stiff and in business it is the survival of the FITTEST

Your value should be like jollof rice, It has to be Nigerian jollof, not concussion or Ghana Jollof rice. You also have to be Fanta, but never Mirinda

Stay on top of your game ALWAYS or your value will continue to decline until you are no more useful to consumers

Dear Lil Kim: What is Happening to Your Face?

Dear Lil Kim,

Stopeeeeeeeeeetttt!!! I love you. Your nasal holes are shrinking and now, a doll’s face has more expressions than yours
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“I have low self-esteem and I always have. Guys always cheated on me with women who were European-looking. You know, the long-hair type. Really beautiful women that left me thinking, ‘How I can I compete with that?’ Being a regular black girl wasn’t good enough….[Breast implant] surgery was the most pain I’ve ever been in in my life. But people made such a big deal about it. White women get them every day. It was to make me look the way I wanted to look. It’s my body.”- Lil Kim Newsweek Interview(2000)
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So there we have it. A man says you are not European enough, you go through very painful surgical procedures to look European. Then he leaves you still for a real European. What if he says your legs are too long? Would you cut it off to suit him too?
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When a person is not grounded, they sway to the winds direction, left…right…stay put. Therefore, you have given all your powers to someone else, a robot, waiting for instructions from the next master.

Instagram: Nothing is ever as it seems

Yesterday night while I was trolling Instagram I came across the make up free face of a popular celebrity. Let me tell you, it was not the image I would ever imagine seeing of her. She had bags under her eyes and then acne everywhere, even on her chest!

What?!!!! I have all these expensive creams I use day and night just to get the perfect skin like hers only to see that there’s nothing like that?! I have been duped, only that this is all on me

Instagram has made everyone’s life look perfect! Perfect husbands, wives, girlfriends, life, trips, shopping etc. All is well in the world of Instagram. Do you know that some people actually change the colour of their shoes and bags with the help of a picture edit app while we are here thinking “all these shoes in different colours #ballinggggggggggg

Why do I believe this hype? I should know better because I struggle too, I use filters, I cry, I face disappointments. Some days while I post pictures with captions like “#happy #iamblessed #goodlife” I’m telling myself ” “#sigh #Sosad #mylifeeeeeee”

I’m Not saying I’ll stop using filters but I will just accept all these deception as entertainment, a distraction from my imperfectly perfect life. Life as I know it is not all rosy, for ANYONE! So post away, filter away, nothing wrong with that, just so we are all Clear, Instagram is our entertainment play ground, nothing is as it seems