On the difference between Spirituality and religiosity

I met someone very recently and we got talking. Somewhere during our conversation, he asked me, “Are you religious?” To this, I responded, “No, I am more spiritual than religious....

5 things to remember when living alone in Lagos for the first time

Sometimes in life, the demands of work and the need for independence turns many of us into mini-flat dwellers and apartment settlers. Others times, we are forced to move to foreign lands for work or s...

How To Love Yourself Again, After Divorce

Divorce will often leave you feel like less than a whole person. Maybe we gave too much of ourselves to someone we loved deeply. Perhaps circumstances and our giving nature, eradicated parts of our id...

Do not ignore the Red Flags in any relationship, always keep your eyes open.

                                                         So often the term ‘Red Flag’ is used when talking about a romantic relationship, but no one ever talks abo...

What to Do If You Feel Trapped by Your Circumstances

  It’s our struggle with ‘what is’ that causes pain. The longer we try to resist the pain, the more it persists. Yet the worst has already happened; our circumstances are what they are. On ...

Still single, still bold, still strong, still refusing to be someone’s challenge

Here’s what I’ve noticed. I am: 1. Smart 2. Funny and love to laugh 3. Business minded 4. Schooled on etiquette and can still go hood real quick and then back to posh. 5. I know exactly what I wan...

RIP Monday, You Will Always Be A Big Part Of My Childhood

I have just been told that Monday, my childhood boyfriend passed on in South Africa earlier this month. If you’ve followed this blog, you’ll know I’ve often written about him. Here’s how I’l...

Recognising Depression and Getting the Help You Need

Depression is a common and debilitating mood disorder. More than just sadness in response to life’s struggles and setbacks, depression changes how you think, feel, and function in daily activities. ...

My Husband Was My Rebound Guy. I Am Still In Love With My Ex

Precisely 16 years ago when I was 18 and in the University, I met my first true love during a short break at home. He sat down behind me in church and gave me his card and that was the start of our sh...

It’s Okay to ‘Fail’ on Your Way to Finding What You Want to Do

I would say it’s a safe assumption that most people aren’t quite sure what they’re doing. What do I mean? I mean that most individuals—whether they look polished and presentable or haphazardly...

What Do I Do When My Sister Wants Me To Care For Her Kids And Not Work

  Last year, after leaving the university, I came to stay with my elder sister because she was heavily pregnant and was almost due to give birth. I decided to stay with her because she had no one...

I Wished Someone Had Asked Me – “Who Really Are You?”

I wish someone, anybody, had told me and guided me on living with intent but the persons in the position to do that didn’t know about that either, I guess. I wish all the advice I got while growing ...

There really is no need to be too anxious

You’re probably wondering why we’re talking about anxiety today, I mean it’s never that serious right? Oh, but it is. Being anxious starts from getting overly worried about the littl...

A Mindfulness Practice for Letting Go of Jealousy

Ah, where would great literature be without jealousy? Many of Shakespeare’s plays turn on jealous motives, and library-loads of novels mine the hearts of jealous lovers and envious climbers. In the ...

‘I Felt I Was not a Good Mom’ – Serena Williams Details Post-partum Struggles

23-time grand slam singles champion Serena Wlliams has explained her recent struggles after child birth in a revealing post on social media. According to her: “Last week was not easy for me. Not onl...

Think You’re Not Good Enough? How to Stop Holding Yourself Back

Growing up in a culture where physical beauty determines how successful you are in finding a job, a suitable husband, and a promising career, and most importantly, bringing honor to your family reputa...

The Year I Hit Rock Bottom And How I Overcame

It was the year everything changed. I gained over 30 pounds of fat. Crashed my first car. Got kicked out of college. Growing up, I was always athletic. Losing weight was never a problem. That changed ...

You Always Were and Always Will Be Whole and Complete

“Always engage in the quest for life’s meaning, which is inner peace.” ~Longchenpa When is a person complete? When have they finally “made it”? Is it when they find love? Success? When they ...

Confessions Of An Ex- Serial Dater

                                  The urban dictionary defines a serial dater as “One who engages in the process of systematically dating an obscene amount people in a ...